What is behavior actually telling us? It is a language—the final ripple on the surface of deep water. When we only address that ripple, we miss the force that caused it. To provide real support, we must shift our role from "behavior managers" to "root-cause investigators." It is about moving beyond the surface to understand the physiological "why" behind the action. "The Architecture of Safety" explores how we can lend our calm to the chaos and build a foundation of trust.

I know that this post may cause a bit of friction, but I felt compelled to write this after having this conversation more times than I would have liked. When people find out that my children are neurodivergent, they always try to figure out the cause. Some even go on to give me tips for a “cure,” as though my children are sick and need to be healed. I recently heard about a couple—medical professionals, no less—who are actively searching for a cure for their autistic child. W